Resources
While there’s never a one-size fits all book or relationship expert, here are some resources I think are pretty great!
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ADHD after Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationships by Ari Tuckman
Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. Brotto
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
Contemporary Male Sexuality by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Barry W. McCarthy and Michael E. Metz
Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences by Lauren Fogel Mersy and Jennifer A. Vencill
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond
Sexual intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It by Marty Klein
The Heart of Dominance: A Guide to Practicing Consensual Dominance by Anton Fulmen
The Pleasure Prescription: A Surprising Approach to Healing Sexual Pain by Dee Hartmann and Elizabeth Wood
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Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help you Get the Love You Want by Alexandra Solomon
Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel
Polywise by Jessica Fern and David Cooley
The All or Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli Finkel
The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men by Tom Bruett
The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Ed Tronick and Claudia M. Gold
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver
Us: Getting past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real
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Should I Try to Work it Out: A Guidebook for Individuals and Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce by Alan Hawkins, Tamara Fackrell, and Steven Harris
The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage by Kate Anthony
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum
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More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley
The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
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Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate – A Compassionate Guide to Mindful Divorce with Meditation, Yoga, and Legal Wisdom by Gabrielle Hartley with Elena Brower
BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People by Bill Eddy
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas
The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation by Karen Bonnell and Kristin Little
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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg
Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered by Juliane Taylor Shore
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Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond
Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships by Jessica Baum
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey
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Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On--Together or Apart by Douglas K. Snyder, Kristina Coop Gordon, and Donald H. Baucom
How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis Abrams Spring with Michael Spring
Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment by Steven Stosny
The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness by Debi Silber
When You're The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know by Tammy Nelson
Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner