Resources

While there’s never a one-size fits all book or relationship expert, here are some resources I think are pretty great!

  • ADHD after Dark:  Better Sex Life, Better Relationships by Ari Tuckman

    Better Sex Through Mindfulness:  How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. Brotto

    Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

    Come Together:  The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski

    Contemporary Male Sexuality by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy

    Coping with Erectile Dysfunction:  How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Barry W. McCarthy  and Michael E. Metz

    Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences by Lauren Fogel Mersy and Jennifer A. Vencill

    Magnificent Sex:  Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard

    Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond

    Sexual intelligence:  What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It by Marty Klein

    The Heart of Dominance: A Guide to Practicing Consensual Dominance by Anton Fulmen

    The Pleasure Prescription:   A Surprising Approach to Healing Sexual Pain by Dee Hartmann and Elizabeth Wood

  • Loving Bravely:  Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help you Get the Love You Want by Alexandra Solomon

    Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel

    Polywise by Jessica Fern and David Cooley

    The All or Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli Finkel

    The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men by Tom Bruett

    The Power of Discord:  Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Ed Tronick and Claudia M. Gold

    The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

    Us: Getting past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real

  • Should I Try to Work it Out: A Guidebook for Individuals and Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce by Alan Hawkins, Tamara Fackrell, and Steven Harris

    The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage by Kate Anthony

    Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum

    Discernment Counseling

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  • More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

    Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi

    Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

    Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley

    The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

  • Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate – A Compassionate Guide to Mindful Divorce with Meditation, Yoga, and Legal Wisdom by Gabrielle Hartley with Elena Brower

    BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People by Bill Eddy

    Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas

    The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation by Karen Bonnell and Kristin Little

  • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg

    Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered by Juliane Taylor Shore

  • Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

    My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem

    Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond

    Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships by Jessica Baum

    Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

    What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey

  • Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On--Together or Apart by Douglas K. Snyder, Kristina Coop Gordon, and Donald H. Baucom

    How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis Abrams Spring with Michael Spring

    Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment by Steven Stosny

    The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays

    The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

    Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness by Debi Silber

    When You're The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know by Tammy Nelson

    Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner