I work with communication challenges, sexual concerns (desire differences, pain, loss of attraction, trauma), monogamous and consensually nonmonogamous relationship structures (ENM), repair after infidelity or trust breaches, life transition stressors, stay or go discernment, LGBT+, gender identity, and neurodiverse relationships.

I often work well with clients who:

• care about their relationship but feel stuck in repeating communication patterns

• are looking for support to work through betrayal

• are navigating challenging differences and want to find a path forward that doesn’t involve either partner losing themselves

• are interested in understanding their own growth edges

In our work together, I will often invite you to practice:

• getting more clear about what you want and making direct requests

• communicating what matters most to you skillfully in a structured conversation

• holding steady when hearing your partner in a structured conversation

• repair when needed

• making decisions that feel internally congruent (together or separately)

• co-creating durable agreements

I’ll offer “process” coaching along the way as well as specific “content” ideas you can implement.

I think of the goal as becoming a stronger team to navigate differences, make decisions, and create durable agreements.

One important difference between couples/relationship/marriage therapy versus individual therapy is that in relationship therapy, the relationship is the client, not an individual.

While there isn’t one universal definition of what defines a “good relationship,” my therapy approach is informed by research about what helps relationships stay healthy and thriving.

I don’t define what you should want for yourself and your relationship—but I will support you in clarifying and communicating your thoughts, feelings, and preferences.